March 06, 2016

Marriage on Lent Day #12

I am hoping you will join us on our 40 day journey of praying for the marriage's of those around us. My sweet friend told me once, "wedding problems are always a spiritual battle," and so with our prayers to the Father, they will be our weapons to fight with God for the hearts and unions of those around us. So get your list and join us in prayer.  The guest posts will bless those who are praying and also those of us who are married or know married people. I love that each post is very different. Get ready for some wonderful encouragement and powerful thoughts and prayers. Enjoy these blessings.
Many thanks to Dee Ann Andrews for today's post.


Abba Father, thank you for this new day of life you have given us. We thank you for all the blessings You have so blessed us with because we know that ALL good things in this life come from you.  We come to You now asking You to be present and to guide us in all we do as a couple in this marriage.  Help us this day to seek to serve You more by serving each other, in love.

Give us the sense of Your presence with us, because we so often falter and worry and feel so insecure about the struggles we are in and become overwhelmed.  Help us to realize that this moment – today – is all that we are promised, so may we take a deep breath and then walk with You moment by moment through this day, trusting You to work things out for us, according to Your will. We trust you to do this because of your promises to us through Jesus Christ. In His Name we pray. Amen


These thoughts on marriage are very personal from us, Tom and me, to you.  When I asked him what he thought was the number one most important factor in a good marriage, he said – not love, as I was expecting him to say – but “trust.” He continued, “What I mean is that I trust you to always have my best interests at heart and you trust me to always have your best interests at heart.” You can love each other very deeply, but if you do not trust each other, then you have real work cut out to each change yourselves to be a trustworthy partner.


Trust is all tied up in love, itself, which is so well described for us in one of our favorite passages, I Corinthians 13. Read this passage together and to yourselves as many times as day as you need to do so, to think before you act, and then act in the ways of love! Always! We had this passage read at our wedding and printed out on parchment paper to give each of our guests, because it is our guideline for living a Christian life, in marriage and in all things.


I Corinthians
14:1                 Follow the way of love  
13:8                 For love never fails . . .

13:4                 Be patient and kind,
                             Envy not,
                             And do not boast.
13:5                Never be proud,           
                             or rude,           
                             and seek not your own.

                       Do not easily be angered
                       And keep no record of wrongs
13:6                For love does not delight
                            In evil
                            But rejoices in truth.

13:7               Always protect,
                      Always trust,
                      Always hope,
                      And always persevere.

13:13             Faith will become sight,
                      Hope will become promise,
                      There remains only love.

J. B. Phillips translation

One more passage we chose to have read in our wedding is a charge not only for women, but for both of you to cling to each other always until the end of this life shall separate you. It is taken from the book of Ruth, as follows:

But Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. 17 Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the LORD deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.”

At the end of each day, pray together and with your children, if you are so blessed, thanking God for bringing you safely through the day, no matter what life problems remain, and asking for rest and sleep through the night.

May the Lord richly bless and keep each of you who read these words.


Anonymous said...

thanks, Dee. that was lovely......

Denise :)