March 06, 2016

Marriage on Lent day #30

Let's keep praying for those around us.

Thank you to Terri Wolfe for today's Marriage on Lent post.

Thought from the Heart
When two become one, there is a family. Together you create a home. And though you are one, each brings a different emphasis to the words ‘home’ and ‘family.’ Often we stress over individual roles within this new-to-us structure. What is my role? How am I to behave?
But what if, instead, we strove to explore the true mystery of marriage that is as mysterious as the concept of church.  What if we let Christ be the head? What if there was neither man nor woman but, instead, a mutuality of being that sought to be obedient to the head, regarding each other as better than self, loving one another as Christ loves us, not defining ‘roles’ as apart from each other but only exploring ‘role’ as one, seeking servanthood?
Perhaps the result would not be “I” but “we”. Perhaps the outcome is not ‘my will’ but ‘thy will’. Perhaps the separation would blur and the two diverse bodies of gifts and talents and cultural baggage and church expectation would instead form a single entity in which desire to be one triumphs over competition and definitions and shows the world that marriage, lived as one, is as mysterious and unexpectedly beautiful as the presence of Christ in his church.
Trinity is always surprising us: choosing the least, turning things upside-down, thinking outside the box. Why wouldn’t the same be true of marriage? How can any two marriages look alike? Our marriages should confound those who do not include the mystery of living as one.
Dare to listen. Dare to be one. Dare to be the mystery.
A famous nun, seeker of God, prolific writer in an age of great illiteracy, glimpsed the unexpected God who dwells among His people and who sees our hearts and understands our needs. And she reflected on this in regard to our relationships between each other and between ourselves and Trinity. Here are two things she wrote that reflect the powerful force of living deeply into the mystery of our marriages.

“Home is a place where the great are small and the small are great.”
“Our Lord does not care so much for the importance of our works as for the love with which they are done.”
-Teresa of Avila
Father of All,
Thank you for seeing us as we are, where we are. Thank you for your example of love that blows away all of our meager concepts. Help us to cling to you together.  Help us to be one in our marriages even as we strive to be one with you. Help us to understand True Love through the power of Jesus’ life and with the help of your Holy Spirit. Give us your strength to live our marriages in the mystery of You. Amen.