March 06, 2016

Marriage on Lent Day #32

Thanks to Cathy Messecar for her thoughts on marriage today.

Party Pants
By Cathy Messecar
A book titled Life is Short, Wear Your Party Pants reminded me of celebrations and joyous marriages.
Barely in our twenties, Dave and I attended many weddings. Then a diaper bag full of baby shower invitations arrived as friends started families. Birthdays of every kid their ages came next. We ate our way through pounds of Ball Park franks, mustard, chili, and Crisco-laden sugary frosting. And we fought a few piƱatas.
     Lately, we’ve received many wedding anniversary invitations, commemorating 25, 40, 50 years of marriage. In this short-attention-span world, those are occasions worth the party pants.
Since summer is a favorite time for weddings, here is a practical suggestion for newlyweds or long time married couples: Create everyday customs that keep you connected to each other.
After many years, one couple performs a wedding tradition each morning. At wedding receptions, couples often toast each other with their arms linked. This couple continues to do this each morning with their first sip of coffee. If this is too starry-eyed for you, read on.
Our marriage-odometer will roll over 46 in a few months. One of those years, we fell into the habit of shaking hands as we leave the breakfast table. It’s a friendly way to start the day. Of course, kissing hello and goodbye are age-old choices of staying connected, too.
A favorite married couple, Donn and Mildred, have learned the secret of honoring each other. Let’s just say they’ve had their wedding rings for a few years.
At a mall in casual conversation, I listened as Donn complimented his wife Mildred, and she “replied” with her classy smile. He also unfolded the foil away from a Hershey Kiss, leaving it resting on the foil in his palm. He lifted it to Mildred’s lips. She only had to bend her head to retrieve the morsel. Never had to lift a finger. What a man!
When I finally said goodbye to this couple, they strolled out hand-in-hand. Nothing has tarnished their love for each other. The shine is still on.
Jacob worked seven years to marry Rebekah, and they “seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her” (Genesis 29:20). Agatha Christie suggests that a woman marry an archaeologist because the older she gets, the more interested he gets.
Not married to an archaeologist, try good manners, genuine compliments, sweet habits, and practice God’s unconditional love. They can add up to a 50th Wedding Anniversary. This world could learn from a few more of those “until death do you part” marriages.
Bring them on.
Press your party pants.

Cathy Messecar, author of A Still and Quiet Soul: Embracing Contentment  Married for 45 years, she enjoys writing and spending time with Dave, who still asks her out for Saturday night dates.


Cathy Messecar said...

Tammy, what a gracious host you have been for these days leading up to Easter, and to the One who can resurrect marriages and our bodies on that last day that the earth as we know it exists. Thank you, Father, for Tammy and Rob!